Good Afternoon... It's 12pm this WORLD.
I am still in my PJ's...
I have spent this morning cleaning my house.
Well TRYING to.... my daughter has decided she would like to be a terrible TWO YEAR OLD! I missed this with James baby, tantrums are so much different to MELTDOWNS. I found myself laughing so many times this morning at Scarlett she full on throws herself on the floor and kicks about like a fly that's just been sprayed with Mortein. This morning she decided she would like to be toilet trained. She kept ripping her clothes off, I just thought she wanted to be FREE.... turns out she has decided she would like to not wear nappies anymore. She told me every time she needed to PEE this morning and she successfully went in the toilet 3 times. WHOOP WHOOP
James doesn't understand toilet training yet even though we have tried. His specialists all believe that he is not yet ready and it will just cause anxiety. He is a smart boy, I think he is now going to see Scarlett using the toilet and he will want to do the same.
James was due to go to Pre School today but he couldn't go because of his wound, instead he went to his grandparents house to Yiayia's School. Yiayia (his grandmother) is a School teacher, she has always done school work with James and he absolutely loves it! So this morning although he couldn't go to school he still got the stimulation he needs.
Both kiddies are home now an its that time of the day that we sit down and have quiet time. Scarlett still has a midday nap, James doesn't but his SPD requires him to have quiet moments throughout the day to limit any Sensory Overload.
I have just been looking at the calendar for what we have on next week... HOLY cow. We are a busy family, no doubt about that sometimes our week is CHAOTIC. Next week is one of those weeks where the 4 of us seem to be going in 4 different directions.
Next week as well us the usual schedule, Scarlett has her special hearing test at the Sydney Children's Hospital and James has his nutrition and GP appointment regarding his bloods and MTHFR results. Once I have the results of his bloods and MTHFR I will do a post on what supplementation we give James and why..... NOW that so many of you want to know this information. I am getting to that post for you, I just wanted to gather some more information before I pound the keyboard for that one. It's really in depth. I will tell you though that all ASD kiddies are different and I would advise you to get a nutritionist as part of your team, one that has special interest in ASD. There is EVIDENCE to suggest that supplementation can aid in the overall function of ASD children and adults.
This week is NATIONAL CARERS WEEK...
Yesterday I went for some mummy time. I am lucky enough to have a fabulous husband who watches the gremlins while I go and have some time to myself.
When James was a baby, I DID NOT leave him with anyone and it was so hard... it wore me down hard. I still don't leave my children with anyone other than there father or on the odd occasion grandparents. Its so hard to leave ASD children with people, for many reasons..... I was James' voice! I used to think if I am not around then he will struggle, no one will get him, they won't understand his needs, he will regress from the anxiety of not having me around etc etc etc.
I am here to say to you today how important it is to get some Mummy time.
My psychologist (the lady I saw ONCE, then I decided my blog would by my therapist) said that you should have atleast 10 minutes to yourself every single day.
Take a shower, ALONE. Walk outside barefoot. Lock yourself in the bedroom.
It's bloody hard I know when you are the carer of someone that has additional needs but if you aren't at your optimal then its not healthy for anyone. You are important. You deserve time too.
If you are struggling make an appointment with your GP. They can help you to talk through any issues, they can help you find alternative care for your cherubs if need be so that you can find the time to recharge, reset and let go.