I need to get something off my chest.
We are all aware that James has multiple labels. I bring to people's attention (ones that don't live in our immediate world) that he is on the spectrum when it's required. But must I teach James to go around telling people he is autistic?
My answer to that is NO. A big fat NO.
Firstly he is 3.
Secondly I am all about celebrating differences and not placing anybody in a specific box or under labels.
Thirdly, I don't need to squash his self esteem right now. He doesn't know what autism means. Why should I start placing more anxiety or self doubt in his mind when I am trying to build him up??!!
James understands from now that he is different, I am sure. He is an extremely intelligent young boy. I don't need to remind him every single day by labelling him with a word that really has no meaning to him as a 3 year old.
Now let's not get our knickers in a big fat twist and start with any negativity here. Because I am proud of who my son is. I love him for his whole being. Autism and all, but there are words that I would like James to tell people he is over his autism, like..... intelligent and loving!
"Hi, my name is James and I am passionate about numbers", not "hi, my name is James and I have autism". At age 3... come on!
Aren't we trying to teach our children to accept everyone, abilities and disabilities. Not to judge each other based on labels?
So to the two mothers that went on a rampage of negativity towards me because my answer to a question on Instagram was "no James doesn't tell people he has autism".... this post is dedicated to you. Your nasty private messages were unwarranted. Perhaps you should put your energy into being a positive autism advocate (like myself) rather than slamming mothers that are raising awareness for a cause very close to your heart.
Clearly you are both having a bad day, don't take that out on me. The end.
"Got to get used to everyone's difference's and understand that this is a big gigantic colourful world and it only works with Inclusion and empathy. It only works that way." Pharell Williams