Well this morning I was on such a high.
So many new followers for our journey and positive messages filled with so much love and support. Thank you again.
Then BAM 10.26am exactly, Autism hits. My REALITY. Back to earth I come.
I needed to Vacuum the floor. James has a touch and go relationship with the vacuum. Sometimes I have to vacumm 3 times a day and other times (like now) I am not allowed to vacuum for a week straight.
We talked about the vacuum this morning. That didn't help. He finally allowed me to turn the big noisy machine on. He helped. He then got distracted playing, I was all finished so I packed the vacuum away. Worst mistake.
James has a routine with the pesky vacuum. When I am finished he turns it off, he presses the grey button for the cord and then he puts it in the cupboard, shuts the door and gives me a big high 5.
So.... I had a major meltdown on my hands because I put the vacuum in the cupboard and he didn't get to do any of his routine.
So out the vacuum came again. I had to re vacuum the floors and then he ticked off his routine one by one, in the same order as the 500 other times we have been through this.
FAR OUT man.
I am sure so many of you can relate to these moments.
James doesn't just do this with the vacuum, he does it with a million other things too.
Like the washing machine, I am not allowed to turn that on, that's his job.
When we leave the house he has to walk down the stairs first.
He has to open the garage door. He has to flush the toilet.
He must come and get me in the mornings, take the dirty bottles to the sink and watch me wash them.
He does the things he does though because its his way of having control over his environment. I allow him to do what he needs to do, because a) he is out of the shadows. b) he is learning and c) the more we allow him to control the less and less it happens, the more comfortable he is the less anxiety and meltdowns he has. It's really draining though.
James fell asleep on the way to speech therapy today. I woke him up and took him to the local park ten minutes before his lesson for some sensory input. James doesn't wake very well, especially if he has a day sleep. His transition from sleep to wake is distorted and he gets really overwhelmed sending him into a long meltdown.
He had a fantastic therapy session with his speechy though, the park visit would have helped with that.
James is working on' S' blends, three part sentences and active verbs at the moment.
Great session. Fell asleep in the car on the way home, lucky Daddy was home so he could sooth James' meltdown before we got to the 2 hour mark. James' Daddy has a real knack with him, he knows exactly how to handle James in those horrible waking situations.
At 4pm James had soccer.
What an awesome session to finish off the year.
It makes me reflect back on his first ever lesson with Soccajoeys a whole 3 terms ago.
He has come leaps and bounds.
His first ever lesson was only 10 minutes long with Mum only a metre away.
He now does the whole hour with Mum outside the cage.
He has excelled in motor skills, listening skills and social interaction as a result of dedicaton from A+ coaches. Coach Sue and Super Elias as he calls them.
I am so glad I listened to the owner Steve who told me he would be fine. Coach Sue said just keep trying. We never gave up and now soccer is a highlight of our week.
What a big positive to finish off our day.