I wanted to thank you all for always supporting our journey. I love all the private messages and emails we get, not only supportive ones but also asking some advice, either from parents of newly diagnosed children or parents that simply feel as though there is something 'not quite right'.
This brings me to say that I am not a specialist in the field of autism, I am simply a mother who has given her all to research, therapies and really ' whatever it takes' for my child to succeed. I do not do this alone. I have the most wonderful supportive husband, we have a great team of therapists and specialists all in place.
I am also here to help however just recently I have been completely and utterly misunderstood and feel I need to talk about it, after all I am a Virgo and we are communicators.
So, I had made a friend here in cyber space, someone I was valuing as a really really good friend ( despite not meeting). We have very similar beliefs when it comes to food, gut health and healing.
We would talk about a lot, daily life and anything related to our children.
She had some heavy concerns about her child. She would ask me many questions. So many questions, and daily, but I didn't mind because I wanted to help ( again I am a Virgo and I want to help everyone).
It got to the point where she was very stressed and anxious about her child, she had spent a number of days asking many questions.
So I felt it right to offer a 'suggestion' of what it might be.
She automatically got defensive and asked ' what gives you that impression', so I backed up my 'suggestion' with the reasons why I thought she might want to look into the condition ( and NO I did not suggest autism).
I sensed she was a 'little down', so I apologised if I had offended her in anyway.
She then cut me OFF.
I apologised AGAIN. She then said I, ' labelled her daughter and called her specialist useless'..... clearly we were having seperate conversations because that's not how I perceived it at all.
So I stated again, ' I am sorry you felt that way I am truly sorry'.
So I have actually just mourned a friendship, even though we have never met!
Isn't that crazy?!
This is how Chinese whispers start and people are made to look like they are something they are not.
I am not a coward, I am not malicious, I am not a know it all but I have been perceived that way.
I merely offered a 'suggestion' which was surrounded in love and respect.
I became the bullseye for all of her stress.
Bang. Friendship over and out.
Why can't people talk these days?
Why must people hide behind their screens?
Are we really living in a society where people can be so quick to cut off others?
What about the 'other' person ( I am fine by the way), I am just saying again, we are all different, everyone has a different personality, a different outlook on life etc but we must always remember to respect others. And simply just cutting people off is not respect in my view it's weak and arrogant.