What a DAY!
Days like this make me realize that I am not a parent of a MAINSTREAM child.
Don't get me wrong I love James more than anything in the world (equal to Theo & Scarlett of course) and I would not change him for ANYTHING! He truly is one of the smartest humans I know, his brain works in a very MAGICAL way.... like what 3 year old can count to 1000!!!!!!
BUT with amazing gifts and talents come great stress..... SENSORY stress! James can go into overload at any time and its so PAINFUL.... for James and for us.
James' day started great, he had Soccer today... he LOVES soccer! It was super hero day so James soccer school and he went as his favourite super hero, SPIDERMAN!
He did the whole class today which means he was super tired! Now that means either Mum allows him to sleep or I don't allow him to sleep....... You are probably all thinking 'who cares let him sleep', Well when James has a mid day nap he wakes with sensory overload, the world is all too much and he can scream from anywhere from 1 hour to 4 hours. Nothing makes him comfortable. He can't handle Scarlett around (as she is an unpredictable being whilst he is in overload) .... WE are so lucky that Scarlett is so patient, its like she knows when he is struggling and she will happily sit off to the side (normally eating with the ipad on RYANS TOY REVIEW)... but she is never ever needy at these times.
So when James is in OVERLOAD our WORLD STOPS! Like I mean STOPS! We have to stop everything we are doing to bring his world back into alignment with ours. Today that meant I needed to sit with him holding him tight for almost an hour (proprioceptive input makes him feel safe).
Then I tried the IPAD, water play on the bench, painting (FUCKING MESSY AND SHIT EVERYWHERE) to then looking at what he was holding .... WATER BALLOONS. So I filled the bath with water balloons TICK TICK TICK TICK!!!!! I did it.... the problem solving mummy made her come back!
So James and Scarlett happily covered the bathroom floor, walls, mirror, me and each other in WATER! They had the best time and more importantly James was REGULATED!
Once James is regulated I can go back to life.... So I write this (AS THERAPY) whilst I watch 2 eating children at the breakfast bar, cooking daddies dinner (i say this because I would happily just eat TOAST), washing machine is on.... Then I am going to get my fat ass in a pair of TIGHTS and head to Ballet Body before I Smash the TEQUILA.